Ok. Don’t hate me. I know I promised to not bring up The Scientist again. But it’s only appropriate for this week’s afterTHOT to talk about him. Such ironic timing. Once I realized Red Flamingo was becoming friends with him, I realized there’s a possibility that he could be invited to Red Flamingo’s birthday party this month. Sho nuff. Red Flamingo invited him to his bday (and of course I secretly really wanna see him). He did ask me first if that was okay which is sweet, but I told him this is his bday and he should invite who he wants. I think The Scientist is a great guy, so he should be friends wit him. And I know Red Flamingo is searching for more black friends. I get that. We all want to be with people of our own kind. And I respect that. But at first Red Flamingo didn’t want to tell The Scientist that we knew each other, but I told him it’s not fair if I know he’s coming and he doesn’t know I’m coming. What’s worse is Red Flamingo wants to do one of those zombie, team-building escape rooms. Wtf‼️‼️ You not only want us to both come to your party, but you wanna lock us both in a confined room together for an hour⁉️⁉️ But I finally convinced Red Flamingo to tell The Scientist that I’ll be there. The Scientist said ok and agreed to come. So he obvi don’t hate me so much he won’t show. But the situation (and my mind) is fucked up‼️ Who gets into these situations⁉️ So now I have a week to stress and anticipate every scenario in the book‼️
Here I go again with the brutal honesty. One minute I feel like I’m on top of the world and the next I’m feeling like an epic failure when it comes to dating…
A couple Fridays ago I met my friend, the Red Flamingo, out for drinks with his coworkers. At the first bar, we met this girl who was traveling from California on her own. His coworkers called it an early night and we took this Traveler to Boystown with us. While dancing at one of my favorite bars, this sexy black man started dancing with me! I’ll refer to him as Tiny Dancer. Then the Red Flamingo pushed me into him. Although, we were already dancing, so it was kind of pointless, but he was trying to be a good wingman. Tiny Dancer and I exchanged numbers and started texting all week. We made plans to go out the next Sunday. He even said that he thought I was 22y/o! I’m sure that was a lie, but I’ll take it!
I flew to Jacksonville, FL, the hole of the earth, for work that week. So from Thursday to Saturday I was doing nothing but drinking free dranks at work receptions. Tiny Dancer picked me up that Sunday and we went to Pride Fest. We were both running into people we knew all over the place. And that was awkward at times considering half the people we ran into were my lovahs! But one of his friends was a bartender and we got three free $14 sangrias each! So the day was going well!
We ended up at one of the bars on the strip. When one of my jams came on, I left him at the front bar to go dance in the back. As I started getting my groove on, I had to let out a little fart. That’s when I realized I’d been drinking ALL weekend and hadn’t eaten any food that day. It totally ended up NOT being a fart. I totally sharted myself! And I mean it was pure liquid. The back of my LIGHT BLUE shorts were completely covered in shit! I was mortified! So I ran to the bathroom and THANK GOODNESS a stall was open. So I locked myself in and tried to clean myself up but there was no hope! I sat in the stall for like 10min trying to figure out what the hell to do. Then I decided to text Tiny Dancer and let him know that I sat in something really gross and had to leave.
He was sweet and found me in the stall and knocked on the door and asked to see how bad it was. I said “NO! It’s horrible, I have to go,” and I ran out of the club with my T-shirt stretched down to my knees. Of course being Pride Fest, there were TONS of people on the street, so I cut down the side street toward the residential area and ordered an Uber. Two Ubers cancelled on me in a row as I was just standing in the middle of the street covered in my own feces. Then finally an Uber picked me up and I politely sat on my hip so as not to dirty up the seat. I immediately rolled down the window as we started to drive off, and then the driver rolled down ALL THE WINDOWS!
Thankfully the Red Flamingo came to my rescue. He told me to go home and wash my ass and he’d be right over with some green! I was devastated and mortified, and Tiny Dancer and I have barely texted since!!! Do you think he figured out what happened? Do you think anyone in the dark club or on the street knew?! Being independent, single and free is not quite as easy as I’d hoped!
For the first time in 33 years, I’m about to be completely on my own. It’s such an exciting time in my life. I think it’s something I’ve always wanted, yet I’m scared outta my fucking mind! Adulting with another adult is hard enough! How the hell do I do it by myself? Perhaps it’ll be easier because I’m not responsible for anyone else. But that seems a selfish way of thinking after a very, very LTR!
The Ex and I pretty much started our relationship on the day we met…which will be 12 years ago this month. However, I have no idea on which day our relationship ended. I suppose the last official day will be April 30, 2017 when our lease is up. Yes, you read that correctly. I am living in a shitty, broke down, roach-infested box…With. The. Ex! I have deemed this studio apartment the Pigeon Hole. The view out the only window is a brick wall of the neighboring residence which forms a nasty little alcove with the brick wall of my residence. In this alcove, pigeons like to coo. Pigeons like to shit. Pigeons like to fuck. And they’re noisy fuckers.
So how the hell did I get conned into moving into a crappy, confined Pigeon Hole with The Ex? Because you don’t just throw away 11 years (at that time), right? He’d provided for me. And now he was out of a job for the first time ever. But I was just starting my first full time job; I couldn’t support us both living in the one bedroom that we’d been in for 7 years. And so we were kicked out and forced to find the Pigeon Hole.
So why did it end after more than a decade? That’s an answer I have to be careful in formulating over the course of the coming weeks. I don’t want to be unfair to The Ex. We may despise each other now, but I have respect for him still. However, I promised myself I’d be honest to the 5 people reading this and to myself. So how did it end? Essentially the answer may be that we were doomed from the start like some Shakespeare shit…