Well…I wasn’t quite so successful at planning out dates for myself on a monthly basis this year. I did, however, take myself out by myself on occasion, but usually impromptu and for only a nightcap. Which is one of my fave things to do at this cute local cocktail bar.
I also went out quite often with friends, both on planned and impromptu outings. I realize that’s exactly what I needed. I wanted to celebrate life with loved ones. My chosen family. Last year was all about my path to independence and this year was all about spending time with the ones who helped me get where I am today. And my annual birthday shows reflected that the past two years respectively.
My favorite part of the night of my birthday show was making everyone feel like royalty, literally, and watching everyone find the perfect crown just for them!
As for my 35th Birthday Resolution, I’m going to write a letter each day to a different person, place or thing that has inspired me in some way throughout my lifetime.
Why is it that as adults it seems like the only forms of entertainment that we have involve drinking? We are engrained with the thought that the only way to socialize is with a cocktail. We tell ourselves we need to unwind at the end of the day with a beer. We celebrate mundane achievements with the indulgence of a shot. We raise our wine glasses to toast anything. “I’ll drink to that,” as the saying goes. We use any excuse to get drunk. We use drinking as any excuse to lose responsibility or forget the night. We think it only polite to offer an alcoholic beverage to our guests.
Though our everyday tasks don’t necessarily garner a celebratory drink, some major life events do. Like one of my best friend’s weddings! Knowing that I was going to be in New York City for five days while my friend got married, I allotted two of my remaining drinking days to that trip. One for the reception and one for the bachelor party. But instead I used up all of them because, of course, every day I was there was an excuse to drink. I am disappointed in myself. My last day while I was in the airport by myself waiting for my plane to stop getting delayed, I had a drink. So technically I went over by one day. But it was one drink. But did I even really need it? I remember consciously telling myself not to order it.
I don’t think I’ll let anyone else down if I continue to go over my days the rest of the year. But I’ve let myself down. Isn’t that just as bad? My whole life I’ve been in competition with myself. Because after all, I am the only one who’s with me the rest of my life and at every moment. Isn’t it important to be proud one’s myself?
I suppose I’ve procrastinated on writing about my last two drinking days because I don’t want them to be real. As summer approaches, it gets harder and harder to say no to a cool drink. There’s nothing like patio weather in Chicago to make one want to day-drink as a relaxation activity. Accidental binge drinking does occur for everyone in the city this time of year. Do my cravings make me normal or make me an alcoholic?!
Drinking Day #24 was Memorial Day — a beautiful day with friends and sangria at the Waterfront Cafe which overlooks Lake Michigan. It truly was a Red, White, and Blue day with red sangria, white clouds, and blue water!
About a week later I had drinks again when I went out with my girl to CeCe Peniston’s Sew Unique Swimwear fashion show on Friday. My girlfriend and I like to leave our men at home sometimes and have our own date nights. So it only seemed appropriate to have a drink while in the VIP section.
But now I have only 6 days left to last me until December 9th — technically the 8th since the 9th resets my year. Everyone has been asking me if I’ve had my days saved for specific dates, and up until now, I’ve just been going with the flow deciding as I go. Of course I knew that some specific holidays would be Drinking Days, though. Now here is how I’m allocating the remainder of my Drinking Days:
Chicago Pride Parade (June)
Friend’s bachelor party (July)
4th of July (July)
Sister’s birthday or Market Days Festival if I don’t see her for her birthday (August)
Father’s birthday–if I see him during this occasion (September)
I feel as if I have totally failed myself this past week as I used up two more drinking days in May! They weren’t even very good reasons. Friday I went out with coworkers and checked out the rooftop bar at the new Virgin Hotel in downtown Chicago. I did promise one of them that I’d save a day for her, but I could’ve spread it out better! But the views and weather were worth it. However this warmer weather poses a new challenge as patio season is upon us!
As the bottles overflowed with Effen vodka at the Chicago International Film Festival TV Awards, my allotted drinking days began to overflow as well. I’m slightly over half of my dedicated drinking days, however I’m slightly under half way through the year. I couldn’t resist the top shelf open bar of, though. I’m not much of a vodka drinker because I’m a fan of bourbon, but now and then I enjoy a good vodka cocktail as long as it’s not cheap vodka. So many events offer Svedka when it’s free, but that particular brand especially gives me a headache every time. So I spoiled myself and I did not get sick or have acid this time. Vodka is definitely easier on the reflux. However I did notice that it was not as easy to pass bowel movements the next day. I know that may be a bit too much info, but this drinking challenge is an experiment for me to study my health in realation to my alcohol consumption. And I have noticed that my trips to the bathroom have been much easier since I started.